Our problems are caused by being 'here' but wanting to be 'there'.

By Michael Mead, Director, LiveWell.Coach | 29 April 2019

I'm going to make a claim about problems and mindset. My claim is that the problems that we don't enjoy dealing with in life are often caused by how we view ourselves, other people and the world around us and that this is ultimately driven by the cumulative effect of the following:

  • Our false sense of self/identity (our ego).
  • Our values (what we value and fully attach our false sense of self/identity (ego) to and identify with).
  • Our past experiences and biased/skewed view of reality.
  • Our higher level biological need to avoid pain, seek pleasure and conserve energy which can cause us to over think and build ourselves up as special or better than others in order to repair and protect our false sense of self and what we value.

That last point is an important one because it demonstrates clearly that the claim that 'our mindset determines our values' is a non-sequitur. It's our biological need to take the path of least...

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Overcoming insecurities and the justification trap.

By Michael Mead, Director, LiveWell.Coach | 31 January 2019

'Nothing is certain in life but death and taxes.' Well, I've had my fair share of conflicts and problems in life so I'd like to add those to that list as well. I think there's a misconception out there that we should be aiming for a life that's permanently happy and pain and problem free. Life just isn't like that, particularly when other people are involved. Conflicts, problems, and pain are an inevitable part of life so why spend so much time and effort trying to avoid them? I think it's better to just work on identifying the values that lead to better decisions that lead to the sorts of conflicts, problems, and struggles you enjoy solving so you can enjoy facing those head-on whenever they appear.

I have often asked myself questions like, 'what's really at the cause of conflict?',  and in this article, I've outlined some of the ideas that I've discovered from my reading that help to answer questions like that.


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