Sometimes I 'care' therefore sometimes I am 'weak'.

By Michael Mead, www.LiveWell.Coach | 23 October 2019

Why is it that being overly nice or caring too much about others can sometimes be seen as a threat or a sign of weakness or an invitation for others to not care about their impact on us?

Science tells us that all living moving animals are driven by the need to avoid pain, seek pleasure and conserve energy i.e. avoid pain and seek pleasure with the least amount of effort. These are ancient adaptive traits that have helped life to survive long enough to pass on genes and evolve with new random mutations; some helpful, some harmful and some neutral. We are all the cumulative result of millions of years of helpful mutations that enabled our ancestors to live long enough to pass on their genes to the next slightly different generation. That’s pretty incredible when you think about it, something to appreciate.

One helpful mutation that human beings have developed is the desire to feel good whenever we’re connected in a...

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Our problems are caused by being 'here' but wanting to be 'there'.

By Michael Mead, www.LiveWell.Coach | 29 April 2019

Our thoughts drive the way we feel which in turn drives the actions we take which in turn drives the outcomes and results that we get in life. It makes sense then that the problems that we don't enjoy dealing with in life are often caused by how we view ourselves, other people and the world around us. I believe that this is ultimately driven by the cumulative effect of the following:

  • Our false sense of self/identity (our ego).
  • Our values (what we value and fully attach our false sense of self/identity (ego) to and identify with).
  • Our past experiences and biased/skewed view of reality.
  • Our higher level biological need to avoid pain, seek pleasure and conserve energy which can cause us to over think and build ourselves up as special or better than others in order to repair and protect our false sense of self and what we value.

That last point is an important one because it demonstrates clearly that the claim that 'our...

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